So how did we meet… The short answer is we met doing what we both love. The real answer is of course much longer and detailed. Both of us being into fitness naturally put us in the gym way before we ever met one another. Funny thing is that as crowded as a gym may seem on a busy day, it actually gets smaller and smaller over time as you get to know all the regulars. There happened to be a certain lady who came in consistently that I took notice of. The things that attracted me to her weren’t what most people generally think of from this environment, there was an aura about her that I noticed from day one. The smile on her face always caught my attention and she seemed to be such a pleasant person from afar.
Being that the gym is my second home, I don’t generally make a habit of approaching people as I like to focus on exercising, and not socializing. As chance would have it, we happened to have mutual friends and it was only a matter of time before we began speaking. Nothing serious at first by any means as I could tell that she was the type of woman that had herself together mentally and life wise. As I slowly got to know her through conversations and interactions, I knew that she was a person that I would love to have in my life. I also knew she wasn’t the type of woman that would be jumping to get to know some gym guy that she just started talking to. From that point on I knew it would be a long road to truly getting close enough to her to be in any sort of a meaningful relationship.
After a period of time I decided to ask her out on a date. That was quickly meet with a very nice “no”. Knowing that she was a woman that was worth my time and patience, I kept things friendly and stayed in contact with her as she continued through medical school. Eventually she moved away to begin her residency and I knew we wouldn’t be in close contact moving forward. I still wasn’t deterred as I knew her schedule would be so busy that she wouldn’t have much time for social outings as the schedule was so demanding.
As time went by, I would call / text periodically checking in on her. Sometimes months would go by before getting a response to a text. I knew she wasn’t ignoring me as she just didn’t have a lot of free time. It always amazed me how she could spend so many hours working and still make time to focus on all the things that made her feel whole in life. That only reinforced my hopes and dreams of one day getting some time with her on a closer level.
At a point, can’t remember exactly when, we started flirting a little more via text. Phone calls were still difficult with her hours so that was the best way for us to stay in contact. Responses to messages slowly began getting more immediate, more emojis, couple conversations thrown in there as well for good measure. Now it finally seemed like we were getting on the same page. Just before her formal residency began in the summer, there was a small two-week window that she had off before the most difficult part of her training would begin. This was literally the only time we could have to spend time with one another before she’d disappear again for years. As chance would have it, this time around I was able to convince her to go out on a date. She boldly came to my house to change before we left out as she was traveling from another engagement and would not have a chance to get changed before arriving. I say ‘boldly’ as she had never been to my house before and I was basically a stranger to her at that point. Luckily for me, the night went as planned and we had a great time. She drove with me and talked and had a great time for the rest of the evening.
That one night sparked the next two weeks of us spending every available free moment together. I was so happy to have finally gotten close to her and I told myself that I would make the most of the opportunity. To this day I honestly don’t think there is another woman like her on this planet. Anyone that has had the pleasure of meeting her would surely agree.
The next few years I spent supporting her as best I could through that most difficult phase of her life. She would make the drive down from New York as often as possible for us to spend time together. Who knows the countless hours she spend on the road and money on tolls and gas. Knowing the sacrifice she was making, I did everything I could to make our short time together as peaceful and relaxing as possible. The demands of her residency schedule never bothered me as I knew I would never find another like her. Difficult as it was, I knew it was only temporary and hopefully one day we would be together forever. Thankfully that day finally came on January 26th, 2019. That’s the day that she accepted my proposal and made me the happiest man in the world.